Posts Tagged ‘significance’

A blogger I read a while back asked “how do you see success?”. I thought about it for a while, wrote these few lines, and let them mellow in my draft folder for a few months for some reason. Maybe you have to be a success to write about it, lol. I don’t feel much like one lately. Maybe I needed to read this post again. That’s the funny thing about feelings. They’re fickle. Nonetheless, I still agree with what this guy called “me” wrote a while back and, if for no other cathartic reason than to clear my draft folder, here’s the post:

For me ‘success’ isn’t about doing something, i.e. more money, better job, bigger stuff, getting recognized, etc. For me, I stress for me, ‘success’ is all about being. Being whole and human. Recognizing truth and beauty in and around me. Being a father, a husband, a son, a friend. Being honest with and about myself.

No matter which model people aspire to (doing or being), I’ve done both, and I can honestly say that I’m finally at peace with ‘being.’ When you live in a pursuit of ‘doing,’ it’s all about completion, accomplishment, recognition, i.e. ‘success.’ It’s ridiculously stressful and constantly leaves you unfulfilled and disappointed. Somehow I’ve found a way to love myself, to be myself, to know myself. That I believe is the first step to being a ‘success’ and living in healthy relationships with the world and those in it closest to us.

I think I’ve been caught up in the “doing” of the 10,000 things lately, or especially the 10,000 things that don’t get done. I’ve forgotten the value and necessity of “being.” It’s not an easy switch to make but a reminder I desperately needed to find.

I’ve been enthralled by Brian Swimme’s book The Universe is a Green Dragon. I trust that you already know that we are children of the stars, literally. The planets, comets, moons, and even life on earth are all products of star dust. For that reason Swimme describes the universe observing itself through us:

We are the self-reflexion of the universe. We allow the universe to know and feel itself. So the universe is aware of itself through self-reflexive mind, which unfurls in the human. We were brought forth so that these experiences of beauty could enter awareness. The primeval fireball existed for twenty billion years without self-awareness. The creative work of the supernovas existed for billions of years without self-reflexive awareness. That star could not, by itself, become aware of its own beauty or sacrifice. But the star can, through us, reflect back on itself. In a sense, you are the star.

This got me to thinking. Often we live our lives trying to discover where it is we came from and wondering where it is we are going, not knowing either for certain. What happens to the world around us once we’re gone? Did our lives really count for something? Make an impact on others? All of those billions of stars had no idea of their own significance until we came along, formed from the leftover dust of their death. Just because we don’t know what will happen in the future doesn’t mean we won’t make a difference. One day we will become dust again, and in time we will return to our source, another star in another time that will one day too explode into a world of new possibilities. It really isn’t such a small world after all, is it?